Food Fight
by Karen Sherman, Ph.D.

Question: We can never agree on what to eat and it causes regular conflict. Can this be resolved?

Answer: One of the biggest challenges every couple faces is trying to work as one when, in fact, they are two different people with various needs and wants. Arguing about what to eat is a common scenario. So what do you do when your man wants a steak and you want salad? Here are several suggestions for you to digest:

• If your partner is really drooling for a steak and you have no particular preference, then let them have their rib eye. Of course, if you can't stand meat, make sure the restaurant offers something that appeals to you, too.
• On the other hand, if all week long you've been fantasizing about your favorite ethnic restaurant and your partner's needs aren't that important, hold to your guns.
• Forget both ideas and pick a third option that suits both of you.
• Since you're going to have different tastes, always remember to have varied foods available at home.

Of course, there will be times when each of you feels you have an irresistible urge that must be fulfilled. In this scenario, a compromise is required, and there are numerous ways to reach one:

• Choose a restaurant that offers both types of cuisine.
• Splurge and go out two nights that week.
• Stay at home and bring in the food you each desire.
• Stay at home and prepare the food that you each favor.

Remember, even if you want to scoop up some Kashmir curry while your partner is happy slapping the bottom of a ketchup bottle, variety is the spice of life -- learn to respect and enjoy your differences! And... bon appetit!

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